Feeling Stuck in Overwhelm Mode? If this is where you find yourself, either from time to time, or what seems like all the darn time, know that you are definitely not alone!
You Might Just Have Responsibility Fatigue
You may not have heard of it, but there’s this thing called “Responsibility Fatigue.”It happens to a lot of us when we simply can’t say no. The more we don’t say no, the more people rely on us. At home, at work, out in the world. Sometimes it literally feels like there’s a sign on our forehead that says “Don’t worry, I’ll take care of it!” Sound familiar? I’ll bet so.
My local NPR station covered this topic on a recent episode called: More Retirees Find Themselves Taking Care of Mom and Dad. The episode explores the concept of “responsibility fatigue” and how it can come in our middle age years when more and more of us are finding the need to care for aging parents. We may also be caring for our grandkids, a child with special needs, a partner or friend with a terminal disease. Often while working a full time job. It is exhausting. Are you nodding your head about now? If so, read on.
Feeling Stuck in Overwhelm Mode — What to Do?
So when you’re feeling stuck in overwhelm mode, what do you do? For starters, you’ve really, really really have to take care of yourself. Believe me, I’ve been there. Overwhelmed with work, caregiving, family, and trying desperately to find time to just breathe. Feeling overwhelmed can lead to depression, anxiety, and a host of other mental and physical issues, so trying our best to find that time to breathe, be mindful, and figure out how best to take care of ourselves is critically important
That was a few years ago. Now I’ve learned new tools to take care of myself as well as all the rest. I’m no longer wondering how to make it through another day, I’m looking forward to each and every one. I have even learned to calm my mind and to meditate every day, and it’s become a grounding life-saver when things get tough. Life isn’t perfect, but it has become easier for me to get in touch with my joy, my passion, and my own sense of being.
My life’s work is to help others learn these skills, too. I’m teaching online, coaching one-on-one and in groups, and I’m loving fueling my passions and helping others in this way. I can help you, too, I promise.
Mindfulness Retreat in Sedona
One of the reasons I’m writing today is that I’m holding a mindfulness retreat in Sedona, Arizona on April 25-27th. where I’ll teach skills in resilience and help the retreat attendees who might be feeling stuck in overwhelm mode learn to bring the happy back into our lives.
I’m going to teach skills you can use to actually say no once in a while and be okay with that. I’ll teach skills to reduce stress and build resilience to bounce back from the hard knocks life deals us. And it gets even better! My friend and colleague, Heidi Sloss, will teach gentle yoga movements designed for all of us “Middle Chicks,” too.
And you need to join us! You’ll come home feeling refreshed and ready to apply what you’ve learned to daily life.There are a few spots left in the retreat. Go beyond that resolve to make time for your own self-care and take a concrete step to actually do it! Even better, we are offering the Middle Chicks’ community a $200 discount on the registration, simply use the code Middle Chicks at checkout. Are you in? I hope so! You can register here and we’ll see you in Sedona.
Other things you might need to read:
- Feeling Stuck in Overwhelm Mode — I’ve Got You [Retreat] - March 27, 2019
- How to Talk Back to Your Critical Monster and Change Your State - October 23, 2018